Searching for Early Self Defining Moments Part 1

Searching for Early Self Defining Moments

A famous psychologist who has published books and dealt with many known and unknown cases of mental health wrote in a book printed in 1999 that the average person, or the normal person, has ten "defining moments" that occur during the course of his or her life, and that many people are unaware or blinded to the significance of these events or incidents that truly define their character, despite the fact that those moments really have shaped them to be the person that they become and those moments still have emotional or mental influence on their feelings, self-concept, and their general welfare years, even decades later, perhaps for the rest of their life.

This well known professional of the mind and human wellness posits that if we as individuals can identify and flesh out those significant incidents in our lives, then perhaps we may be able to unlock answers about ourselves and become the people that we really should be, driven by the passions that we truly care about and the priorities that we love.

I am paraphrasing and summarizing the psychologists' thesis into my own words, but I believe that this is a pretty accurate assessment of what the belief, theory, or system, is, and how the knowledge and analysis of it can help us to be better people, more self-aware, empowered, actualized, if you will, to be passionate and successful.

In order to map out those incidents of our lives that our self-defining and so self-revelatory or powerful to understand, we need to think back on our lives and recall and define those incidents that we can remember and and the consequent results, fleshing it out to arrive at the top ten self-defining moments, in order to ultimately, as they say, "find yourself". He also breaks down those possible self-defining incidents into age brackets in

I thought about quite a few earliest memories from ages 1-5, and I would like to review them and possibly try to narrow them down, and potentially extract and scrutinize if there was one or more that was "self-defining", or perhaps the whole cumulative gamut, in the end, is really what defines me. I believe that my eldest daughter is more of this opinion, and quite a few others, including a few million Scientologists think the same.

1.  Playing Charlie's Angels with my sister Jen and her friend Amanda -- age 5-6

2. Being spanked by my dad at least twice, at least one of those times bare-bottomed by his bare hand. One was by the kitchen table, another I was taken to the bathroom. Maybe I bent (or was bent) over the edge of the tub? Age 3-4

3. Enumerating the seven dwarfs with a stranger in the waiting room of the dentist's or doctor's office, while sitting with mom --age 4-6

4.I wrote many more... In my Almanac book...

TO BE CONTINUED...