To My Warrior Friends and Mates: Gone from Here, Not Forgotten Pt. IV
1) Kelly C. 2) Scott C. 3) Robert P. 4) Jeremy H. 5) Scott H. 6) Ben S. 6) LT M. 7) Rob N. 8) Amarea W. 9) Paul F. 10) Max T. 11) Nicholas B. 12) Dave P. 13) Greg B.
The last three. These warrior friends. There are others who have died (we all do or will), whom I have known, but most of them lived longer, more lived out lives. That is reason to cherish and celebrate them, those that made it to their 90s. Or 100. Or even 73, like my mom.
In these pages I recall and celebrate, give tribute to those who have passed on. And left so many behind. Me, sometimes just a smaller part of their legacies. They who left us young, never achieving the wrinkles or age spots.
Nicholas B.
He was a swell guy. He advanced in leadership in the Army National Guard, he was friendly, and helpful. Like a good Boy Scout. Not condescending there, just stating what the facts are. He was our top enlisted leader for a few years. He cut me some parental times to be a better dad, which I am forever grateful for.
We got together the day after Martin Luther King Day to eulogize and celebrate him. It was a tender and bittersweet time. Many of us congregated to remember, reflect, be grateful. For life, friends, service. People like him. A keen warrior, a friendly warrior.
He was a lot of things, mostly all good. A hole was left that will be hard to fill. Barely 40, if that. Part of the flag, I say. He deployed multiple times. He did his duties well.
A U.S. Warrior. Intelligence and diligence.
Dave P.
Another Batchelor mate. He was short, not as short in 8th grade, but he was strong, muscular, had a dynamite soul and a kind heart. He died this last year or so from cancer. A successful life and participant from all I know. A dad, husband, worker. Everything most of us could ask for.
My high school class website noted his passing. He made it to his fifties, as most of us have done. Of all the recounted lost warriors gone too soon, he is the eldest. Has his children, his life more less established. He made his mark. Not the others who came up shorter did not leave their indelible impressions and memories, but Dave at least lived long enough to prove what he had become, not just the getting there.
Thanks, Dave, for getting there. Living a valiant and good life, from all accounts and stories.'
Smiling, warm warrior. That is who I see.
Gregory B.
Whoa, my brother. My battle buddy, my soldier! I wrote some words in your website of memories last March. This year, 2024.
I tried to write these from most distant to nearest. I have left out a few.
I am not slighting anyone else that I have known who has passed on, some of them too young.
These baker's dozen are the ones that I wish to recount as the year runs out, this Friday night that I wind this down, the night before the shortest day of the year. These people all lived significant lives, and they all had significance to me and countless others.
I got to be Greg's squad leader. I thought I did all right. Perhaps I was limited. I am sure that I have cried a few times for his loss. I met a young man last June who got to know Greg for a few months, and this guy loved Greg. Greg was a lovable, and sweet, and steady.
I have shed a few tears for this big guy. He was about 6'4". He had his girlfriend in my unit, and I found out at his tragic passing that they were serious about each other. He died changing a tire while she was in the front seat. An illegal drunk driver without a license. Lives ruined.
Yes, I think I have cried a few times for him and them. We were inspired by him, as I told the buddy in the kitchen at the fort. We felt it together. The love for Greg, his powerful presence. Understated, but strong. Thank you, Mr. Blowe. Yes, you recognized him. You recognized, did not ignore or shun, the greatness and sweetness in him, our brother.
May heaven help us all to be so ready and righteous! No one is perfect, but there are some souls that seem that way.
Yes, Greg, you were a powerful man. Only 30.
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Final thoughts.
All of the people that I have known who died too young, from 15 to 52 or so, have had their lives shortened. Some of them took their own lives, which I will say is always tragic, no matter the age or circumstances. However, not that I am pro-suicide at all, but I must say that in most cases the people chose their final fate on earth. I hope and pray to see them in another life, I do not believe in heavy condemnation nor damnation for those that murder themselves, or even many others, cases depending.
It is tough when they go any way that they do, but when they are taken by accident like Greg, it leaves the soul wanting. It was an accident, perpetrated by a guy, maybe 24 years old, who was drunk, illegal... We say what a waste, what a shame.
Waste and shame. The opposite of the totality of Gregory.
And thus, we have it, those thirteen of my warrior friends. In four parts. They all gave, they all shared, they all left too soon.
From Indiana, from maybe Pennsylvania or North Carolina, from Virginia. Americans, sons, daughters, husbands, soldiers, kids, imaginers, creators, dreamers, friends, competitors, inspirers.
Heroes. Fighters. Souls to commune with in memory and towards the future.
Scotty.
Kelly.
Bobby.
Jeremy.
Scott.
Ben.
Lieutenant.
Rob.
Amarea.
Paul.
Max.
Nicholas.
Dave.
Gregory.
We love you. I love you. We miss you. We wish the best for all your loved ones, who are many.
We look forward to a future with you again, and to converse and laugh, reminisce and plan the next big thing.
Everlasting life.