Moralizing on Marriage, Economic Solidity for Growth

    Some people think that moralizing is bad, for a few reasons. One, some people think that there is no true good or bad, perfectly just or pernicious evil, nor ultimate right or wrong. Those people think that morals are relatively non-starters because all things are relative. I disagree: there are absolutes in the world that are really good or really wrong. Yes, there are plenty of grey areas, to be debated and further scrutinized, but there are factors that can be measured that can be qualified as good or bad. Jobs and being able to pay for your way (and others') in life? Good. Handling health cares and affording nice vacations and creature comforts? Good. Avoiding harming others and staying away from crimes? Good.

    Some think that moralizing is unproductive because it is not an effective way to communicate or educate, that those that they are meant for do not pick up those lessons. Fair enough, platitudes and pontifications can be rare in their execution and implementation to both those that decree them and the alleged acolytes that should be listening and complying with said injunctions.

   Some are turned off, non-chagrined, by the moralizers themselves because they feel that those that disseminate such knowledge are themselves hypocrites, and that the morals are not meant for them, or anyone, disseminator or receiver, because they are exceptions to the rule. Many question, who are those moralizers to tell me what is wrong or right? How can people know what is good for me? Or anyone? How can any standard be truly true?

    People are not good at listening and internalizing wise counsel. Too often. Or people get the wrong advice and lessons from those that are not the right models or teachers.

    Marriage is an institution that is an inherent stabilizing and wealth solidifying convention that should be practiced and upheld. The 21st century paradigm of marriage is a couple, but there are cases of polygamy where it works, or has worked, for the benefit of society.

    Does everything have to benefit society? Ultimately, yes. Otherwise we will continue to encounter the injustices that millions cry out for and get out on the streets for redress and reform. Anger and hostility are driven by such people that too often do not conform to the morals that we moralizers espouse:

Get married, stay married, do not cheat, do not dally and bring life and souls into the world without those standards. Children need parents, society deserves youth who have married parents. There are exceptions and times when children do not have two parents working for their good. In some cases of abuse, it is better that separation and divorce be the result. Death and widowhood happen, sadly. 

But society and the families involved need marriage. It is a pillar of good economies, it is a signal of stability and prosperity.

Those who lose this institution end up paying in many myriads of ways, which are at times hard to quantify but hard to avoid and negate nonetheless.

I have more thoughts on the good morality of marriage. Even plural marriage is better than casual situations of intimacy and life creations without the anchor of dedicated parenthood.

Get on the bus of marriage, economic responsibility, and stay on the ride, stay the course.

All for now.

I am happy to be married, and I am reticent to moralize.

But I have to share what I know works, and is true.