Wednesday, July 2, 2025

Do Not Despair, Mon Frer!

 Do Not Despair, Mon Frer!

    Things will get better, yes they must! The Russians will not go on warring in Ukraine, the Israelis will not simply eliminate all the hungry Gazans, and Iran will not achieve nuclear power to drop all the waste upon the Jewish of Israel... Or who knows where else.

    It shall not come to pass!

    Individually, our health and wealth will flourish, will it not? People will not fall behind in their bills, in their funds... People will love each other and stay together, and live long and prosperously, and peace and harmony will abound.

    Okay, that is a rosy prospect for many things, and perhaps not a realistic assessment, but it is good to have cheerful hopes, optimistic vibes, and some happy future thoughts.

    N'est pas?

    May oui, mon frer, and mes amis, and ma sur, bien sur.

    Tout jour l 'amour, comme ma mer dit avec moi. 

C'est ca, et c'est vrai.

25 Years: 2011-2015 More Memories

 25 Years: 2011-2015 More Memories

    2011. The family was growing. Birthday in March. The newest and latest child added to the clan! Where did we go, what did we do? Took a beach trip or two? Visited Indiana... likely. Did we go to Florida? I am thinking this was so.

    2012. I was able to get a job far away, which I promised to my children that would mean that we would go to foreign countries, which we did in a cruise the following year. Oh, the memories. Are they so old? Were the Christmas and Spring break vacations not good? Surely, they were...

    2013. Returning home from abroad, going on our trip to Turks and Caicos, the Bahamas. What else? Things got to normal, sort of, reunited with the family. I did a long term substitute job with a new high school forty minutes away. That was okay money, but the next career job did not come fast. 

    2014. Sort of a lean year, really. My mom got sick all the way and passed. I mostly made money subbing, which was not great. I did my part-time Army time, which was only a few times per month. I tried to do an extra language class in the summer, but that went up in smoke, which was disappointing, but I got more family vacation time. I liked the extra hours per day reconnecting with my family. I had missed them for a great while in 2012- 2013, far away. We took the trip to Wyoming, and Utah, and California, and back through Texas and Tennessee, healing from many mosquito bites.

    2015. Got a contract driving to D.C., then Tyson's Corner. That worked for then. Jen was working more and making more money. I tried to encourage the children to mow lawns, rake leaves, shovel snow... It was not that easy to get them motivated. They had what they wanted, enough cash and things.  We did okay, and we were getting ahead financially... I think. Memories? Another trip? Likely Florida. The year before was New Orleans...
    

Old Letter to the Kids - 17 July 2013

 Does J---- have an email address yet? Send something to me.

 
I just wanted to say that I am very happy and proud of the whole Clinch throng in Virginia. Outstanding!
 
Mom has done a yeoman's job of getting everything done. Could not have asked for better. She's nominated for a special award, coming later.
 
1. J----: You don't have to be the fastest swimmer to get a lot out of it. I swam with EARLY MORNING  lessons every summer for about 6 years, but I never raced. Maybe I would have like it more if I had competed, I don't know. I never had the chance. But you have had the experience, you know the strokes, and now you can decide if you want to stay with it or try something else. Whatever you choose I will support you. (Within reason: horses and planes are expensive!).
There are some things that need to be learned in school, and others from Church or your parents, or on your own. Sometimes you may not be interested in what mom or dad want you to know, but if you put up with our requests, you will see why we want to share some of our interests. I gave you ten questions to supplement your knowledge last fall and it is not about a stressful exercise in futility, it is about expanding your mind in a way that will make you more well rounded. I see too many people that have little idea about how some things work that to me are important. Then again, I don't completely understand an engine, which many people do think is vital. And then years later, people use the excuse---no one ever told me! (Lots of people were trying, in many cases, to tell us...)
Thanks so much for being a good example to the little ones and having been such a good student your whole life. And helping the whole family. You are the best.
 
2. M----: Good job on another swim year! And doing so well in school. Thanks for helping around the house and being a great sister. Thanks for sharing with me over the Skype lines, and doing well in and outside of school. I love how you master the times tables and reading, and how you share and do well in everything you do. You do not have to be a champion swimmer to be a good and competent swimmer. You are accomplishing some excellent goals. Thanks for helping around the house and sometimes preparing food. Along with cleaning, you are a fun one to have around, just being you. Keep up the good work and keep reading books! They do make us smarter. And thanks for participating so much at church.
 
3. E----: Good job in your first summer of swimming! I think you picked up some strokes, which are important to know, as a Boy Scout or future marine or whatever. You are becoming ready to protect people and save their lives. I got to help a girl who could have drowned when I was 12. Be ready for that. Thank you for taking care of the toys and not letting them get broken. I always tried to save and preserve all my toys and collections, and they are worth a bit of money down the road if you keep them safe and secure. Thanks for recycling and keeping the house neat, and helping mom do chores and getting to appointments on time. Everybody has to work together to get the best outcome.
 
And when you pray, realize that Heavenly Father is listening and He will give you everything you need. Pretty cool, huh? That is one reason why we show reverence in everything.
 
4. K----: Hey, thanks for sharing the cool stuff on Skype with me. Thanks for talking to me and being a good brother to your your siblings. Thank you for helping mommy to do all her things, and eating right and playing without fighting. And thanks for going to your classes and reading books and being safe. Thanks, pal! You are cool cat and fun son!
(That last part rhymed).
 
5. B----: You are a cutie pie and I like it when you go to the potty and go poo-poo in the toilet instead of your pants. Big girl! I like to hear the songs you sing the cute things that you say. And your funny faces. I am glad to see you every day, and I can't wait to get a big hug from you! I love you very much.
 
All of you guys, I love you and miss you and I hope to see you soon. In Skype and in person.
 
Love,
 
Daddy Schmaddio

Tuesday, July 1, 2025

New Chapters in Life

 New Chapters in Life

    All of us go writing the chapters of our lives day after day, month after month, year after year. By the time we reach age fifty, say, many of us have a good idea of what the book may or should be about. Was I successful? Was I content? Was I giving and sharing enough? Was there significant chapters left to be written? We hope and pray that that is so!

    Some do not make it to fifty. I know a few whose chapters ended years and even decades before the half century mark. Is that a morbid view of life and reality? How to assess victory or achievement versus loss and failure? Not entirely fair, that measure and method of comparing and contrasting based on the number of years in and around the realms of mortality. How long did you live? How qualitative was the life while you lived it?

    There are those who only reach 38 years of age, and expire, yet their life was full of vim, vigor, and even extraordinary influence. I think of some martyrs and heroes who may have been cut down in their prime. Others live well into their eighties and nineties, and while their lives have had a great meaning to many surrounding them and even to their periphery, it may be said that their sphere of influence was smaller. So be it. We all have our life impact and trajectories.

    Some are born to be great and better known, as it were, while others are left on the margins. All of us make our marks as we were intended, maybe.

    Each of us with our chapters. What did you accomplish by age 20? 30? 40? And on. Who did you impact? What good (or bad) did you do? At middle age, did you come into your own? Did you struggle? Were there trials that might have been overcome when you were younger, hurdles that might have jumped earlier in life that trip you up still?

    What were you born for? Is there a destiny or path that guides you? Are you still finding it this late in life? Were you meant for something, something bigger and grander that is not yet found? What significance does your life have? What does it all mean? Are there things that still need discovering, uncovering?

    I think so. Some of us are later bloomers, slower "becomers". It may take us longer to affect what or whom we are to affect, or how to accomplish these things. Perhaps some of us will never really get "there". Ouch! How sad, or tragic, or simply disappointing.

    We are given more chances, many of us; we are given opportunities for more growth and success, but at the same time perhaps more failure and chagrin.

    Let us press on, as the verses of the faithful hymn says. Let us not fail to arrive, or fail to continue. We must continue, and find those paths and avenues of success. Failure is an option, but we are promised much more.

    We have newer and perhaps more eloquent chapters to write, to forge forward. We are given more chapters, we pray to our divine source! God, the heavens, fate.

    Perhaps this book will wind up as the masterful tale it was meant to be.

Inward Observation of the Outward Thing

 Inward Observation of the Outward Thing

    This is what we do. It is natural. We make internal assessments of many of the external phenomena and items or people in the world. We look at others and make our inner judgments, all day, all the time.

    We do judge one another. We judge ourselves. We judge God, and we pray that he might be merciful upon us.

    In holy scripture we are commanded not to judge one another, yet this is very hard not to do. Nearly impossible. How can we not look at others and not judge them?

    We can look at each other with more merciful or beneficent eyes. We can be kinder in our evaluations and assessments, but we cannot help but be critical and render judgments.

    We can be too critical of ourselves or others. There are mental illnesses where people are hyper critical, they can spend too much time casting doubts, apprehensions, criticisms against others, including themselves.

    Each of us have our criteria for judging positively and negatively. These can be long standing considerations and concerns. Many of them we built up from small stages of childhood. Some of our leanings or criteria we have built up in more recent years... The old and new, the young and the more mature impressions and assessments of what is what, who is who, and why and how, of all things, big and small.

    As I told my wife this morning, I thought that I had an idea of what to write in this going in, believing perhaps of some grand kernel of wisdom or nugget of intelligence or profound insight, but as I type I see that perhaps I am short of all those things.

    How do we assess our value, our worth, our work, our lives, each other, one another, our efforts, our  outputs, our errors, our shortcomings, our strengths, our weaknesses, our beauties, our uglinesses, and on and on. Yes, how? How much? How often?

    How do we inwardly observe all the outward things? Money made. Jobs accomplished. Babies reared. Tuitions paid. Bills and taxes addressed. Vacations taken, trips made, places visited, memories made. Did we ride a jet ski, a motorcycle, a horse, or a go-cart? Did we London, Greenland, Rome, or Panama?

    Have we done all the things that were on the buck list? The Wall of China, the Old City of Jerusalem, jumping from an airplane, watching a Broadway Show?

    Do we feel content in our own shoes, or the shared footwear of others, the spouses, the children, the family and friends that we connect and bond with? Do we stay clear of those that we do not aspire to hang out with, share the same space with, those that we choose to avoid?

    We are, after all, told to choose wisely how and with whom we spend our time. And of course our habits and hobbies and indulgences and efforts.

    How do we spend our time? Is it quality time, is it good enough for the priorities which we espouse? 

    What do we learn? What do we esteem? What do we hold on to? What do we ignore and evade?

    Inward observations of the external, but also simultaneously the internal.

    The inner becomes the outer and vice versa.

    These are some inner observations, going round my mind.

    And likely has a few others wondering the same.

    What is up with all that?

    Precisely.

    Away we go observing, we will never stop till finished, which for many means death.

    Yet, even death presents some speculations on observations. Save that for another post.

    Did I scratch my initial itch? Have I left things a bit more clear, or more cloudy? I cannot be sure.

    Blogging it... Now into July. 2025, a year of change, I think safe to say for many.

    So we observe.

Saturday, June 28, 2025

Charles Maurice Lived and Dreamed

 Charles Maurice Lived and Dreamed

    Born in St. George in New Brunswick in 1903, Charles was a dreamer. What did he think of? What were his dreams? Well, lumber took up most of his days throughout the year. Cutting logs, chopping wood, moving the logs and planks from here to there. But, among his diverse interests, he liked to read some authors a lot, like Victor Hugo, Alexander Dumas, Charles Dickens, and a few others who wrote about India and the Far East. Charles, many people calling him Charlie since his youth, was constantly thinking about and learning about the whole world. And its peoples. The library was his favorite place to find books and magazines about all these things. He would spend time there perusing and check out the articles to bring back to his home. He had a small den and a small library, but the library was the place of his biggest documented treasures.

    Charles was religious and derived a great deal of contentment from his religious life and community.

    Christianity was everywhere in his world, where he lived and worshipped and attended dances and ice cream socials, but he was always fascinated by the beliefs of others... The Jews were the source of the Abrahamic faiths, the Muslims were populated in so many countries. What of the Hindus and the animists across the world? The local Mic Mac Indians had their ways, their spirits and stories. He loved to talk to them when he could.

    He worked the forests and lumber, did some occasional river work and hydration projects, but his mind was not so much invested in the physical labor he rendered. He helped out with different people's cattle, a few hours or days every week. Depending on their needs.

    Charles always wanted to marry; he did when he was 28. His wife died three years later. She could not have kids, anyway: there was no one left behind for him to worry about. Her family moved to the United States, likely the Boston area, before he had met her. Batilda. She came and went. A chapter of love and heartache, but he was okay. He moved on in life into his thirties. He knew life was no longer about her. There were two women that he pined after, as he grew older. 

    But wait a minute: where is New Brunswick? More people know about Nova Scotia that pokes out into the Atlantic than New Brunswick! Forgotten province. Many more know about little Prince Edward Island, and even Newfoundland, which most of us will never go to, perhaps more will go to Greenland...

    We digress. Let's get back to Charles and his loves. The first woman who he fancied was married. She was in a nice family; her husband was the main lawyer for the town, they had nice children, and everyone loved them. He knew it was bad juju to look too closely to a married woman, but sometimes Charles could not help himself. He saw no flaws in her, which he had easily seen in every other woman that he ever knew, including his mother and his aunts and all the women and girls that he observed. They were loud and crass and laughed at the wrong things. They talked about silly things and avoided knowing about deeper and more profound subjects, thing that Charles himself valued. Why would you not want to know about the dozens of tribes and ethnic groups that inhabited the Sahara Desert? Why guff and gossip about the newest pant style coming from New York or Paris? Only one woman he ever knew gave a whit or care about those things which he had valued more: knowledge of the planet and its peoples. And of course she was married.

    Charles was happy that she existed, at least. That she paid any attention to him.

    His deceased wife sometimes pretended to care about exotic or esoteric things that kept his mind alive, but she didn't. That did not mean that he did not love and care for her, but she never got into his dreams like the lawyer's wife.

    Pshaw. God put us here for purposes, only he knows the answers. Right? Surely all of this creation, all the way down to Saint George, New Brunswick makes sense at some level. It must.

    The other woman that Charles admired was loud and crass. She was fun. Funny, entertaining, there was no end to her. Even though he could be tired of her ways, he never was tired of her spirit and spunk. She was not perfect by any means, but so colorful and funny! She was the cleverest person he had ever known. Shrewd, and witty, and she could sing and dance. She didn't mind being embarrassed, or poking and teasing at others. Her critiques of his comments and observations were so bold and overbearing that he would laugh out loud at her harangues; he would find himself chuckling about her words in his quiet hours, or even worshipping in the quiet church downtown, or way out in the forests and the mountains. She always brought an unquenchable joy to his thoughts. 

    She was crazy. But brilliant. She had been married three times. Each former husband was a mystery. Was the first one locked up in the Plains, spoken to by the Mounties and servant keepers of the Metis? Was the second guy feeding the fishes or whales out to sea? Was the third guy off learning the ways of mystical transcendence off in a small village of Honshu, Japan? Quite possibly, all of the above.

    Why would they leave? Did she really marry them? Her stories were hard to discern. Was it all just a joke and a fairy tale to her?

    Charles could never quite figure it out.

    One time when Charles was fifty, he cornered her, and demanded that she confess her status and interest. "No, sir," she replied. "I cannot be pinned down, as God on High wishes me to be free, independent, and open to the greater possibilities."

    Wow. That is something.

    By the end, and in his life, Charles was not all about the women that he loved. He was more. He was a great sibling, friend, cousin, uncle, and real treat to all who met him, both to strangers and to those who knew him the best.

    He died earlier in life, which was an accident, but he was happy and good when it happened. He was crushed by a large trailer of logs. Trying to do his thing, still strong at 62 years old. People laughed and cried at his funeral. He was a sweet, really a good man. He worked hard, only complained when something needed its window dressing, or the opposite.

    Charles believed that God was in charge of the course of human destiny. He thought highly of Jesus, who had left His mark, or marks across the centuries, but he always wondered what Jesus would do in the 20th century. Could he the best doctor, or the savvy lawyer, or a judge, or even a farmer or a lumberjack?

    Would He choose to rule from a throne, or would he go among the people like Florence Nightengale or the any number of great nurses and healers across the expanse of humanity?

    Charlie always wondered, always dreamed, always hoped. His grave said, "Charlies was a dreamer; he welcomed all to his table, he shared with people of all station."

      No one can remember who put that there.

    He left behind a good feeling on all who knew him. His gravestone, too.

   In the 21st century he is all but forgotten; some descendants or further distant family thought of him, and wanted to bring him to the pages of this obscure corner of the internet and to the light of what some might care to think of a person that the pages of history will not cover, but his name came up on a Friday afternoon, and here this Saturday in the later hours of this hot day, think of Charlie who grew, who aged, who left mortality, who did not beget progeny, but left behind a wake of work and exploration. 

    To the man who made it to Boston twice, Halifax innumerable times, and lived and died in Saint George.

    To Mr. Clinch, we almost kind of knew you. But no matter how much we knew him, he was a person of worth that gives us a moment of thought and contemplation.

    We thank you for that.
    

    

Thursday, June 26, 2025

25 Years Since 2000 - Part II 2006 to 2010

 25 Years Since 2000 - Part II 2006 to 2010


    2006. We left the Pacific and came to the Atlantic side. We first lived in Ashburn, Virginia, in a town house. We used up the teacher's retirement of the wife in order to pay for this move. Was that good for the long term? Him. Hindsight some twenty years later... That year we welcomed our third child, while I worked as a substitute teacher, junior college instructor, and temporary worker at various places. We moved into a smaller apartment. Our oldest has memories from this time, as she started kindergarten after a summer at the local pool.

    2007. Army time! It came in and we went our separate ways for a while. You with the kids, I with the battle buddies. We met once again in California at the bay. Sea lions baying, the aquarium awaiting. Kids in tow. We went to the night beach by Sand City for fireworks in July. We visited members of the church, the estero at Dennis the Menace Park, and the docks and wharfs of Cannery Row. We took some road trips, had family come and go. The move from Virginia through Indiana to California was something.

    2008. It was great. Our third, no, our fourth child was born to us in Monterey. We spent the whole year on the central California Coast, and life was decent. Many memories of the town and the surrounding areas. Our oldest did her second-grade year, culminating in...

    2009. We left California and returned to Virginia, with some other states in between. My father was a great help, driving many of our belongings in a truck. We began our lives in the northern Virginia area and the roots were placed. What happened that fall? Did we travel to Indiana for Thanksgiving or Christmas? Likely. My mom was still healthy, and had been back from her second mission.

    Memories. Separate and apart, thanks to the U.S. Army. But we made it through okay. I can recall a few more. Not all great. But good enough.

    2010. We got a second car; I was working as a sub a bit much, but we were in a recession and times were tough. I finally got an okay job. Spanish. Yeah, it can pay. Specific memories or vacations? Hmmm... things start to blend. But it was mostly together! I went to California for a couple weeks of training. I was working hard shifts, but we made it work.

    Vivan los recuerdos de anteayer.